They say if you can count all your friends on one hand you’re lucky.
There is another saying: “there are friends of time, friends of place and friends for life” – meaning not everyone is meant to be in your life forever. There will be friendships that grow from life experiences like school, work, play, parenthood, or a luck-of-the-draw chance meeting on a plane, waiting in line at the store or a party. You may share your likes, interests, good times, bad times and secrets with your friend – then poof – suddenly they’re gone. Then there are friends that simply fade away and then years later pick up where they left off. Others represent an old way of life not suitable for you now, a sign it’s time to move on. But best of all, are the friends with whom you are able to grow regardless of time or place – ensuring a place in the heart forever.
Whether they’re in your life for a moment or for good, great friendships are wonderful, fun, comforting and fulfilling. They can be so close they are as good as, if not better, than family. When you allow yourself to open up and share your inner world with another human being it is as scary as it is rewarding – but there is no better feeling than when a friend calls you to make sure you’re ok, stands up for you or is there sharing some of the best experiences of your life.
Research shows that people with positive, meaningful connections whether it be family or friends, benefit from a stronger immune system, less depression, less disease, better able to fight cancer, better quality of life and increased longevity – just to name a few. This is quite the case for, and if you ask me, a permission slip – possibly even a doctor’s orders, to having a few friends over for some lunch, dinner, wine, to watch or play. This is, after all, the message behind my saying “it’s about connection, not perfection“. Life is richer and deeper with good friends to share it with so don’t let worrying about the small stuff get in your way.
As my dad used to say “if you want good friends, be a good friend”.
Here are 10 simple tips to cultivating deeper and more meaningful friendships, living life to the fullest and sharing those experiences along the way. XO ~ L