The secret to any great party is a joyful host. When we feel joy, we feel fabulous about ourselves. And when we feel fabulous we are confident, powerful, capable, lovable and fulfilled – our cups runneth over and we have more to give. These are some excellent reasons why we need to experience more joy in our life – yes?
Here are six super-simple ways to focus on YOU and creating joy in your life:
1. Challenge Yourself
Think of a goal you’ve always wanted to accomplish, whether it’s creating a small veggie garden, starting your own blog, or mastering salsa dancing. The process of setting a goal, learning the necessary steps to achieve it, and giving it all your gusto until you’ve mastered it generates terrific self-esteem and pride – those are feelings associated with joy.
2. Be Inspired
Another way to get more joy into our lives is to find it through activities that give us perspective and take us out of the ordinary blahs of day-to-day life. Engaging in meditation and prayer are two easy ways to produce feelings of well-being, serenity, and joy. Being alone in nature (my definition of the most beautiful church ever built) is another way to feel the joy of beauty — and connection with a greater source – aaaaaaah
3. Have Fun
Do something uplifting and enjoyable – an activity that’s not goal-oriented, but just fun for the sake of fun. I have an iPod loaded with my favorite music and have a dance party all by myself – the kids get a kick out of seeing mom having fun. So hit the museums, a concert or cook up a storm, whatever floats your boat. Play and other activities that don’t have a purpose other than helping us feel relaxed and happy keep our mind focused in the present. The present is where joy lives, that’s why they call it a gift 🙂
4. Deal With Emotions That Block Joy
When we feel sad, lonely, depressed or anxious it simply isn’t possible to also feel bubbly and exhilarated. In a safe and private place, allow yourself to express your feelings and let your tears flow. While crying, recognize your hurts and losses and then let them go like balloons in the sky. Don’t indulge negative thoughts or judgements about yourself. Just keep telling yourself, “I’m fine. It’s okay to cry. I just feel sad, it’s temporary” – because it is, I promise. You’ll immediately start to feel relief and even joyful.
ps – when I need a good cry I have a selection of movies that make me ball like a baby, the oldies but goodies like Beaches, Titanic, Terms Of Endearment, – feels so good!
5. Honor Yourself
Joy doesn’t come from others; it comes from within. Stop the negative self talk and replace it with statements that honor and build your self esteem, such as, “I’m fine the way I am.” “I’m doing the best I can.” ” I can do this.” ” I love myself.” “What I’m seeking is within me.” Focus on the good and what you did well. Write a list of what you are grateful for, admire, respect, like about yourself, read and say them aloud frequently – this will become your new self talk. The sooner you reinforce these concepts, the faster they’ll become your reality.
6. Give Yourself A Break
Life is a marathon, we need to pace ourselves and carve out time to recover. It’s absolutely vital to replenish and nurture yourself. Schedule time, just for you. Allow yourself to close the door and disconnect from daily responsibilities, get away from the noise, stimulation (electronics off) and the demands of your world. Joy comes when we focus on our own needs in a caring and loving way – put the oxygen mask over yourself first. Get a massage. Hide in your room, put your feet up, and watch the world outside your window – take a nap. These are the kinds of activities that replenish us and give our body and soul a chance to feel pure joy.
Hope this has reminded you to be good to yourself and lean in to the joy in your life.
Spread the joy and share with someone you care about.